Another week in relationship hell… This monthly happiness report would have been an exact replica of the previous month, had I not gone on a fantastic snowboarding trip to Mellau, Austria. Even though I was still in the middle of a challenging long distance relationship, my monthly happiness was still relatively high due to this great trip. That’s why I want to focus on what that trip did to me, instead of the usual crap I endured during this period.
Let’s take a look at the monthly average happiness data. As you can see, this month was already much better than the previous month!
My happiness ratings were already much higher during the last month of 2015.
The chart below visualizes exactly what my happiness looked like throughout the December, 2015.
As you can see, I was quite happy in general at the start of the month. Even though my relationship was still causing me to be unhappy sometimes. I luckily still got to enjoy my hobbies and made sure to meet with friends from time to time.
I went on a snowboarding trip to Austria on the 19th of December with my parents. They were going on this trip anyway, and kindly asked if I wanted to join them. I was obviously very happy to join, since I hadn’t been on a snowboarding trip like this since many years.
I don’t know if my parents noticed how much my long distance relationship influenced my happiness at the time, but I wouldn’t be surprised if they did. At the time, I was just a lot less enthusiastic about life in general. Instead of being ambitious and outgoing, I was more introverted and wanted to avoid challenges. I don’t know whether this actually helped me retain a basic level of happiness or made things worse. I just wanted to survive. That was my life’s strategy during this entire period: to chose the path with the least resistance.
I want to show you all the factors that had an influence on my happiness. The table below shows all the happiness ratings for November, 2015.
Snowboarding in Mellau, Austria
So I went to Austria on the 19th of December. It was a short trip – only 5 days – but it was absolutely glorious.
Mellau is located in Austria, just over the border from Germany. It’s one of the closest ski resorts in the European Alps from the Netherlands. The amount of snowfall had been pretty dissapointing at the time, but the resort was able to keep most of the slopes open to the few visitors they had. It was all I needed.
I’m an introvert. It means that I don’t need to be around other people in order to be happy. Every morning, I made sure to be on the first gondola up to the mountains. I rode my snowboard all day by myself, constantly going up and down the many slopes. At the end of the day, I made sure to catch the latest gondola back to the valley station. My entire day consisted of snowboarding, while listening to my music on my trusty MP3 player.
Of course, I tracked my metrics while snowboarding! The picture above shows a typical day of snowboarding for me in Mellau. On this day, I spent the entire time alone, and managed to snowboard a distance of 123,5 [km]. I was able to maintain my own pace the entire day, and actually loved the fact that I was alone. I had nothing and nobody to worry about, and was accompanied only by the beautiful mountains and my music. Fantastic.
I was very lucky with the weather as well. Even though it was December, there was not a single day of rain or snow. The sun was out most of the time, which actually made it so much better. Not only was I enjoying the beautiful mountains and snow-covered slopes, I was also enjoying the rays of sunshine on my face. This improved my happiness even more!
After taking the last gondola down to the valley, it was nice to share a nice dinner with my parents. I am not a party animal, so I really enjoyed relaxing in the evening, either playing a game with my parents or reading a great book. It made me a happier person, and it was exactly what I needed during my time in Relationship Hell. Spending quality time with my parents like this really brought a smile to my face.
The rest of my life
The rest of my life – outside of this snowboarding trip – remained quite uneventful. As I’ve said before, this month could have been a replica of the previous month had I not went on that great trip. It consisted mostly of work, work, work, running, work, video games, relaxing and rinse & repeating. On some infrequent occasions, I visited my friends and actually did something that wasn’t routine. I was in survival mode, and looking for the path with the least resistance. I was not a very ambitious person at the time…
Spending time with my family during the Christmas period was very nice, however. Even though my granddad passed away a year earlier, which made it feel somewhat bitter sweet. I still enjoyed having dinner together while catching up to some of my uncles and aunts. I didn’t see my family that often at the time, but those days together did increase my happiness 🙂
New Year’s Eve was also a nice distraction. I normally don’t really enjoy going to crowded in-door areas, but the party I went to with my friends on NYE wasn’t actually so bad. I enjoyed some drinks (okay, okay, quite a lot of them actually), and had a great ending of the year. It was nice to spend some time with my friends on this evening. Nice and easy, just as I like it.
Positive happiness factors
Let’s have a look at the factors that positively influenced my happiness in the chart below.
So this month would have been really normal, if it weren’t for my awesome snowboarding trip. I’ve written about my usual positive happiness factors a lot already in the past, so will keep it short this time. I enjoyed a lot of running in December, 2015, which never failed to bring a smile to my face. I also got to meet up with my friends sometimes agian, and spent some time recording music in my little home studio 🙂 Nothing out of the ordinary, really!
In a previous monthly happiness report, I have written more about my uneventful life. The biggest part of December 2015 actually was pretty much the same, besides the fact that I was in a difficult long distance relationship at the time.
Negative happiness factors
The chart below shows my negative happiness factors of December 2015.
Even though it wasn’t as bad as last month, my relationship was still causing me a lot of stress and unhappiness. Our long distance relationship was already going on for more than 3 months at the time, and I was just sick of it. We had experienced a lot of ups and downs because of it (mostly downs), and I was just waiting for it to be over…
My girlfriend was flying back to the Netherlands at the end of January, so I only needed to wait another full month. At the time, I was hoping that would be be the end of our relationship hell. If only it were that easy.
This concludes 2015 for me. After having a relatively bad November, the last month of the year was a little better for me. The snowboarding trip was something I really needed at the time, and I loved every single moment of it.
I will recap the entire year of happiness tracking in the Yearly Happiness Statistics post, so keep an eye out for that!
If you have any questions about anything, please let me know in the comments below, and I’ll be happy to answer you!
Founder of Tracking Happiness and lives in the Netherlands. Ran 5 marathons, with one of them in under 4 hours (3:59:58 to be exact). Data junkie and happiness tracker for over 7 years.