Let me welcome you to February, 2016. A month in which I focused on recovering back to my normal life. My girlfriend and I had just survived a gruelling long distance relationship, and I was longing for some stability.
I tracked my happiness throughout this entire month, and that’s what I want to discuss in this monthly happiness report. The table below shows a summary of my happiness ratings.
The average monthly happiness rating was 7,69. This is just about a little down from my average happiness rating, ever since I started tracking my happiness.
Let’s take a better look into the happiness ratings.
The chart below visualizes exactly what my happiness looked like throughout the February, 2016.
After my girlfriend and I survived a huge turning point in our relationship, my life was back on track. The first part of the month was actually a breeze. I experienced nothing but easy days. I was enjoying my work, I continued exercising a lot and my relationship was back on track. In addition, I was also preparing for my next full marathon, which was going to take place in April.
My happiness crumbled at the end of the month, similar to what happened the month before. Just like before, my relationship went through a rough patch, which caused my happiness to drop.
How did this influence my happiness factors?
I want to show you all the factors that had an influence on my happiness. The table below shows the happiness ratings for February, 2016.
Back to my normal life
I enjoyed my normal life again for almost the entire month.
Instead of explaining what was going on in my life at the time, let me show you another excerpt from my happiness tracking journal. It covers most of the things that were going on in my life at the time.
YES! These days were nice. Yesterday was amazing. Another day at work in the course. My girlfriend and I went to a nice place for dinner straight after. It was our 3 year anniversary. I placed flowers on her bed with a little note to surprise her, and it worked. I’m still waiting for my surprise! (lol)
But the food was so fucking good. I really ate too much this time. Indeed, I almost became sick, and couldn’t walk straight anymore… I felt pretty ashamed.
Anyway, today has been perfect so far as well. I just finished running 29 kilometers! Awesome. I now completed 77 kilometers within 7 days. I feel like I’m doing great. It’s time for a bit of rest now. I don’t want to get injured again.
I wrote this in my journal on the 20th of February, discussing both that day and the day before. At the time, I was really enjoying my normal life again, and everything was good and well. My relationship was great, I was enthusiastic again, I ran a lot and my work was nice and easy (I was participating in a multiple week course). Things were going pretty amazing!
This all changed one week later, on the 27th of February.
Where it went wrong…
On that night, my girlfriend and I joined our mutual group of friends on a night out. Things were going quite alright, up until the moment we went to a club. It was 2:00 AM at the time.
Our communication had not been great that night, and we hadn’t talked to each other during almost the entire night.
This should not have been a big deal…
One of my biggest flaws – in my opinion – is that I cannot stand loud, noisy and crowded places. These places cause me to feel frustrated and annoyed within seconds. It’s part of the reason why I hate clubs.
My last night at a club
After entering the club at 2:00, it didn’t take too long before my mood made a complete U-turn. I was annoyed within seconds. The club was way overcrowded, the music hurt my ears, and I couldn’t even talk to my friends because of it. It might sound funny to you, but I actually preferred to spent my time in the bathroom rather than out in the middle of the club. Did I have to go to the toilet? No. But I still acted like I did. Fucking stupid, I know… My friends even came out to search for me a couple of times. If it were up to me, I would have just left, right away. In hindsight, that’s exactly what I should have done.
My thinking at the time, was that I should not abandon my friends and my girlfriend. It was my friend’s birthday, and I didn’t want to be the guy that left the party early.
But I was counting down the minutes until the moment the club would close. I hated every. single. second of being there. I know this is one of my biggest flaws, and it feels very weird to write about it like this now. You must think I’m some kind of crazy person..? Well, I can’t blame you.
Anyway, when my girlfriend and I spoke about this and had another miscommunication, things exploded… It was our first fight in public. We had never experienced a heated argument like that before. It lasted about 2 minutes, before my girlfriend stormed off. I thought the relationship was over, again. In reality, I was not thinking straight. I was really just acting like a little shithead, and as a result, my actions became just that. Shitty actions.
It was the end of our night, and when we were both cooled off a little again, we decided to call it a night (a great decision).
We were able to discuss this issue like adults the day after, which made things a lot easier obviously. 12 hours after thinking my relationship was over, things were mostly restored again, and my happiness was back to were it belonged 🙂 It was another good lesson for our relationship, but mostly for myself.
I now do my best to avoid situations like this one. You might agree with me that it’s probably for the best.
I also try my hardest to not act like a little shithead when I am in a situation that I don’t like. It’s better for myself and everyone included that I just avoid it at all, or do not complain and whine about it.
Positive happiness factors
Pfew! It feels good to finally have that out of the way… Let’s talk about positive factors again! The chart below shows you all the positive happiness factors that influenced my happiness in February, 2016.
After having just detailed our big fight in a club, it might surprise you that my relationship was still the biggest positive happiness factor. Well, the first part of this month was just exactly right. I enjoyed my regular life again, something I had missed for a long time. In addition, I enjoyed a lot of my regular passions. I ran and exercised a lot, connected with my friends, work was nice and I even enjoyed recording music again.
I’ve covered a lot of my happy, regular life in previous monthly happiness reports.
Let’s continue to the negative happiness factors.
Negative happiness factors
I think you can pretty much guess the biggest negative happiness factor by now, but I still want to show you the graph.
My relationship was obviously far from perfect. It was also the worst happiness factor in February. I don’t think I have to explain why.
But we were still recovering. Our relationship was actually a lot worse the past couple of months. Sure, it wasn’t perfect in February, but still better than what we were used to. It sounds quite sad, but that’s how it was at the time…
I have covered the exact influence of my relationship on my happiness in a huge analysis. If you’re interested in how exactly we recovered from all of our fights and arguments, you might enjoy this one. 😉
With that said, I want to end this monthly happiness report. Even though we had a pretty big fight, my relationship was luckily recovering and I was enjoying my regular life again. Happy days, right? 🙂
If you have any questions about anything, please let me know in the comments below, and I’ll be happy to answer you!
Founder of Tracking Happiness and lives in the Netherlands. Ran 5 marathons, with one of them in under 4 hours (3:59:58 to be exact). Data junkie and happiness tracker for over 7 years.